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He Can’t Live Without Me

One thing about me and my Husband is that we are not much into words. Yes, we have the occassional letters, notes and we always express simple affection towards each other. However, we never liked talking about promises or saying grand statements like “You complete me!” hahaha. When it comes to our relationship as a couple, we believe that love is not love unless manifested in actions. We are a “less talk, more action” kind of couple. We both don’t make promises to each other and we both don’t mind NOT hearing them.


While writing this, I remember the moment we got engaged. His unique way of saying that he wanted to marry me was to show me a family (parents pushing their baby on a stroller) walking past us in a mall and said “I want something like that”. And he was able to convince me to marry him because he never told me promises, instead, he showed me a clear example of what he wanted our life to be in a few years.

No matter how much I share some cheesy stuff we do or say to each other online, that is just that. Mind you, the surprises and our times together are never intended for romance (we are not romantics) but we do those cheesy stuff only for fun and we just like amusing each other. We just like making each other laugh.

And so if you’ll ask me before if my Husband can’t live without me, I’d reply to you, “I don’t know.” Because I really don’t know…because he never said so…and I had never asked. Thinking about it now, that might be kinda weird ‘no? We’ve been together for seven years now (bf-gf for 4 years and married for 3 years) and I never knew the answer to that question.

Until two weeks ago. We were talking about going home to Manila and we had a couple of “what if?” questions one of which was this:

Me: What if you need to vacation in the Philippines without me? Will you still go?
Him: It depends how long my vacation is
Me: What do you mean?
Him: Kung sandali lang pwede
Me: Eh ano naman kung matagal
Him: It wouldn’t be the same without you vacationing with me
Me: How can it not be the same, eh it’s the Philippines? That’s home! If you vaycay without me, you can go wherever you want and see whomever you like…sky’s the limit coz I won’t be sagabal to your gimiks.
Him: I can’t vacation alone for long without you
Me: Aha! Are you saying you can’t live without me now???? (trying not to laugh)
Him: (looking like an embarrassed school boy) *pauses a bit* Yes
**Laughter**

So that’s how I learned that he can’t live without me. 🙂

To my dearest husband, happy 38th wedding monthsary. Thanks for taking me out today and thank you for days that turn out extraordinary just because I learn about things I never knew before. Our marriage is indeed one big adventure 🙂

    19 Comments

  4. peach360

    Aww.. that’s sooo sweet!
    Happy Anniversary to you and your husband! 🙂 Wish you more love and happiness…

    By the way, we almost had the same anniv date, only ours is tomorrow – – 21st of March. 🙂

  8. kay

    That is indeed sweet … I love it … its true … promises are broken all the time but if actions are there … they strengthen things …

  15. Leah

    Happy 38th monthsary to you guys… yes, he can’t live without you. Nahiya lang sya sabihin dati. You know how guys are, gusto nila di exposed masyado feelings nila. Hahaha! Now you know. 🙂

  16. Simply Effortless

    Welcome to my blog sis. I’ll add you on my blog list. Hope you can follow mine too. Yeah, crocs are a hit in the Phils but it comes with high price tag. That’s why there are more fake Crocs users than original ones. Sad.

    Btw, Happy Monthsary to you and your hubby 🙂 My hubby and I just celebrated our monthsary too yesterday and your story inspires us to continue. Thanks. Sweet.

  17. Leah

    PS… Ibyang, I will translate my comment kanina ha. Inglisin ko lang for the benefit of Rick. Hahaha!

    Yes, he can’t live without you. He was just too shy to show and tell you what he truly feels. You know how guys are, they are so scared to expose their real feelings but now you know.

    Rick, is that good enough? hahaha!

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