Charmed Life of a Mrs

Treats are surprise blessings given by other people to you or rewards that you give yourself.

This past week I had a lot of treats:

I was able to eat ice cream cake in celebration of my cousin Rachel’s birthday last 10 July:

1st: Rachel about to blow her 1-5 candle (that is the ice cream cake that we ate)

2nd: Patrick playing PSP, Me, Clare and Rachel

I was able to eat dinner at Hi-Lights Revolving Restaurant at Workers Blacktown last 12 July as Rachel’s post birthday celebration:

Overlooking Blacktown

The T-bone steak i had for dinner (yum!)

The four of us again 🙂

Our Team Leader treated us to Krispy Kreme donuts for afternoon tea last Friday:

After a long week of hard work, isn’t this such a lovely, sweet treat???? A really nice way to end the week.

And yesterday, I gave myself a treat, too…i finally found the time to go out with myself and so i went to the salon and got myself a haircut:

Short hair na uli ako!!!

How about you? What are the treats or surprise blessings that you received lately?

In any form, in any way, whomever it came from, don’t forget to thank the one who gave a treat or surprise blessing to you. It need not be big, it’s all a matter of being grateful of small blessings that come your way.

There are still quite a number of questions being asked about our wedding and my wedding experience so in order to share and help other bride-to-bes out there in preparing for their big moment, I will share my answers here.

Questions are not in order and names of those who’ve asked were not mentioned due to privacy reasons. Some I have answered personally or via email.

How long was your gown train?
4 meters

Nasaan na yung gown mo?
My gown is back with Cecil. After the wedding, Chris brought the gown to him for drycleaning but since I don’t have space to put my gown here, I haven’t picked them up. Hopefully next year, I’ll be able to bring it home.

What were you thinking when you walked down the aisle?
My walk down the aisle was very psychological for me, in the sense that my walk down the aisle had a lot of meanings. Pinaghandaan ko talaga ang paglakad ko sa araw ng kasal ko. Before walking down the aisle I told myself “when I walked down that aisle, it will be a symbol of taking that leap of faith, a symbol of courage to commit my life to my husband, when I walked down that aisle, walang bawian na talaga.”

During my walk down the aisle, my other thought was I had to keep it together coz my most loved persons in the room were all teary-eyed. I felt I had the biggest responsibility of having the strength to keep my parents, chris’s mom and chris from breaking down. I knew their tears imply joy and nostalgia but I really don’t want tears during that moment. So I tried my best not to cry in order to make light of the dramatic air.

When will the guestlist ever be final?
The guest list will never be final. There will always be an additional person, there will always be fallouts even on the day of the wedding.

Two weeks before the wedding, I told my coordinator to stop calling guests for RSVP. Our rationale was that the people that got an invite already has a place in our wedding. I don’t care if they attend or not. Basta ang point namin, we invited them kasi mahal namin sila. Gusto naming ipadama sa mga kapamilya at kaibigan namin na importante sila sa araw ng kasal namin, regardless kung mag-RSVP sila o hindi. One thing I learned about this, if they are true friends of yours, they will attend no matter what or at least make an effort to call kung hindi sila makakarating.

And since we stopped RSVP-ing, a week before the wedding I told the coordinator to add two tables for those who will be bringing additional people just to be sure that those extra people will still have a place to seat in the reception.

Who made all your wedding paraphernalias?
Chris did all the designs for the wedding. I helped in the conceptualization in some but he was really the one that had the vision on how the wedding designs would look like.

Who was more detailed, you or Chris?
Chris was more detailed than me, more of a perfectionist, more quality-based.

And what were you then?
I focused more on planning and strategizing. I’m more results-based so when i think of a concept, the first thing I think about is the impact of the concept. Ang tingin ko sa wedding namin ay parang production number na dapat mag-cater at mag-click sa lahat ng guests.

Tips on choosing a makeup artist?
Find a makeup artist that will listen to you before putting makeup on you.

My rule on bridal make up was this: when i show my wedding photos to my kids, my kids would automatically know that it’s me. I told my makeup artist not to camouflage my face. I told her not to hide my imperfections by putting layers and layers of foundation and concealer. I even told her not to make my eyes smaller (coz that’s what most makeup artists do to my eyes coz it’s big daw). I’m glad I found a makeup artist that listens coz I wanted to look as natural as possible, ayoko talagang magbago ang face ko nang dahil lang sa wedding.

Did you have thank you cards made?
Yes, we did. I didn’t want to but Chris insisted that we have TY cards printed as well.

How soon do you give out thank you cards?
Thank you cards should be given at least a month after the wedding. This is one rule of etiquette that we haven’t followed. Since Chris and I are apart for now, it’s hard to do post wedding stuff but as soon as we got settled in together, we will prioritize this. We hope our families and friends would understand the delay of the thank you cards.

How much does your whole wedding cost?
This is the one question that we will never answer.

If you were to change anything on your wedding day, what would it be?
Nothing. Hindi ako naniniwala na pwede pang ulitin ang mga pangyayari kaya hindi ko na inisip pa ang mga bagay na dapat baguhin sa mga nangyari na. After the wedding, I wanted to move on as soon as possible.

Is honeymoon a must after the wedding?
Yes. it doesn’t matter where or how short the honeymoon is. Think of the honeymoon as a reward to both of you—you need it to de-stress yourselves from the wedding. You need to de-stress because you will face new responsibilities when the wedding is over.

Is it a must to bring a tripod when honeymooning?
Yes. It will save you the time asking people to take a photo of you two. Dagdag dalahin ang tripod sa pag-byahe pero worth it.

Gawa na ba ang wedding album at video nyo?
Hindi pa. We haven’t finalized the stuff we need to submit to our main photo/video team that’s why they have no output yet. This is another task in our post wedding activities we haven’t done. Malamang next year na namin ito makukuha. That’s why we had some of the photos uploaded on online so that families and friends can view it.

so there. i really don’t have much to say about our wedding nowadays but i do appreciate family and friends who email or ask me personally of details. maraming maraming salamat po!

Like any other busy woman, I cherish my weekends and make sure that I get to spread out my time to the different facets of my life. More often than not, two days are always never enough–BUT it’s all a matter of managing my time wisely or somehow scheduling events accordingly and at the same being flexible as possible. Here’s my list for this past weekend:

Personal: watched “Princess Hours” during my free time or after finishing my chores at home; started reading a new book

Spiritual: attended anticipated mass last saturday

Familial: was able to talk to Chris Friday and Saturday night; called my parents Sunday morning; I cooked lunch and dinner for my relatives at home (chicken schitznel and menudo) yesterday.

Social: organized a welcome lunch for Tomas (Ara’s husband from the phils) last Saturday and got to hang out with my friends at Hilda’s place.

Physical: I ate a very healthy lunch last Saturday and I did housework so that became my exercise for the weekend…i also did a lot of walking last Saturday on the way to Hilda’s place, plus I got to sleep in yesterday.

I love weekends such as these, when you almost have time for everything and for everyone, including yourself. Although sometimes I appreciate having weekends that I won’t be required to go out, however, having a full weekend isn’t so bad at all.

Hope everyone had a great weekend too!

Ang email na sinulat ng ngo-ngo….

June 11, 2007
Hi ey-i (‘Baby’ as spoken by a ngo-ngo)
Musta na i-aw?
Musta na owling nyo? Wala lang, iss lang ki-ah eh. (musta na bowling nyo? wala lang miss kita eh)
Lah u, lah u!
Iss yu so mut! wah!

Ang email na sinulat ng pabaliktad…

July 5, 2007

!ybab iH

?waki an astum
.gnal alaw
.worromot llac ruoy rof taiw lliW
!u vul u vul !hawM !hcum os uoy ssiM

“We cannot really love anybody without whom we never laugh.” – Alice Reppler

According to Victoria Moran (author of the book “Creating a Charmed Life”) people who lead a charmed life simply put into practice, knowingly or not, the attitudes, and propensities that orchestrate harmonius circumstances. She has also mentioned in her book that all of us can create a charmed life–one that is rich, full, meaningful and manageable.

Having a charmed life does not depend on luck alone (some people consider themselves charmed simply because they were born lucky, or course that’s not true). It is something that we can work on. Some people I know already live a charmed life and they don’t even know it. There are no hard rules on living a charmed life—you can create it. And that’s the beauty of Victoria Moran’s concept.

Let me share with you some of my favorite sensible, spiritual secrets mentioned in her book (the short explanations are based from my experiences):

Take Ten – affording to take at least 10 minutes of quiet time everyday. My quiet time is at night, some do it in the morning. It can be 10 or 20 or 30 minutes, whatever suits you. i usually reflect on what had transpired during the day.

Become an Unhurried Woman – this has helped me get thru the busiest days of my life. This has kept me calm in times when everything around me is in a rush.

Drink Good Coffee, Eat Good Food – the reason why I’m not stingy when it comes to food or coffee and why I like dining out and being served.

Change with the Seasons – my reason for acknowledging the changing of seasons, i.e. how i can never hate winter that much (it’s really a struggle for me to get thru cold days) only because I know that winter is a time for hibernation, more time in the home and more time for oneself.

Decide that You are Beautiful – being beautiful really comes from the inside, in your heart and mind.

Stop to Realize – everyday when going home from work, i get off the bus and walk towards the train station, i pause for a moment and just close my eyes, smile and breathe and think “another good/great day is over, i now leave work behind and face my family at home”. Or when I had a chance to be with a friend and we soon part, i stop for awhile to internalize what has happened and be thankful for such a wonderful encounter.

Have a good night everyone!